New Book Offers Hope to Women Over Fifty Feeling Stuck

Lynn Weimar’s new book Be Free Beyond Fifty: Stop Hiding, Unlock Your Dream, and Step into a Vibrant Life opens with the powerful words the author was told by a counselor: “You are enough.” It’s a message too many women need to hear, as Lynn knows well. Lynn works as a coach who helps women who struggle with emotional eating, food addiction, obesity, feeling stuck, and feeling unfilled. Often that feeling of being stuck is tied to a sense of low self-esteem or hopelessness, a sense that they can do nothing to make their situation better.Because Lynn has learned how to get unstuck herself, she has now written this book to assist other women in stepping into the vibrant life she has found and knows they deserve. Be Free Beyond Fifty is not a book about weight loss, but as Lynn states, for many women, being stuck takes on the form of extra pounds, spurred on by emotional eating to cope with the issues in their lives. Sometimes the weight then becomes part of why they are stuck, making them more stuck. Other times, they are stuck due to shame, guilt, regret, maybe a failure to forgive a past wrong, or just simply believing they are not good enough to succeed.Rather than focusing on calories and how to lose that extra pound, Lynn challenges her readers to look at the problems that underlie the symptoms. We do this by looking into what Lynn calls the “mirror of reckoning.” She explains: “This is the mirror to help you begin to understand, for you and you alone, what you have been clutching as a security blanket to help you get through another day. This mirror leads to your freedom, because once you understand what you’re doing to keep yourself trapped, and why you’re doing it, you are on the path to a beautiful life.” She adds that in looking into that mirror and seeking to change, it’s important that you “Understand you are worth this journey. You are a woman of worth.”Looking in the mirror means seeing the real us. Too often, we hide behind various identities-mom, wife, perfect wife, churchgoer, etc. We also hide behind our failures, letting them define our identity. We can hide behind a desire for perfection or a fear that causes us to procrastinate. In either case, we learned that behavior through our interactions with others who made us start to think small. One of my favorite moments in the book was when Lynn told the story of when she had to work on a school project with a friend in third grade. As they were getting started, her friend remarked, “You like this, don’t you?” Instantly, Lynn felt it was not cool to enjoy doing schoolwork, and this led to her trying to be cool in everything, including procrastinating at doing her homework. Too often, we let others’ judgments determine who we are, what we like, and how we behave. Today, Lynn has learned to stop doing that, and she provides us with tools to change it.Another major revelation Lynn makes is that we have to quit focusing on what other people have done to us or the mistakes we’ve made. A mistake is just a mistake. It is not those events but our beliefs about those events that shape our current state of mind. We need to change our belief or story around the event. We also have to realize that what may have been true, or seemed true, in the past, is not necessarily the reality of our present.All these changes require a shift in our thinking, and Lynn provides an excellent example of the simplicity of the kind of shift that may be required by discussing a woman she knew who would be so busy with work and family obligations all week that she let the household chores fall by the wayside; then she would rage clean all weekend while she beat herself up for not keeping up with things. Finally, one day she realized she was not behind in her cleaning. She shifted her attitude to the idea that on the weekend she would clean so she would be ahead for the week and then have a clean house all week so she didn’t have to worry about the cleaning. This shift instantly made her feel better, and it helped all her family feel better because she felt better.There is tons of more excellent advice and words of wisdom in Be Free Beyond Fifty, but I’ll conclude with mentioning one that may be the most significant. Lynn offers here a profound realization:”Nothing happens to us; it only happens for us. When we really begin to believe this, it changes everything. It takes us out of ‘why me?’ mode and puts us into gratitude. How does it do that? Adopting this belief that everything happens for our ultimate good puts us into a different frame of mind. It puts us in the attitude of looking for the lesson in every circumstance. When we carry this attitude around with us, it puts us on the lookout for what we can learn from this situation. We start looking for that silver lining in the dark cloud.”I’ve come to believe this perspective myself, difficult as it can be at times. And now this book has come along to reaffirm it for me. Perhaps now this book has come along so that reading it and applying its message can also be something that happens for you.

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The Things to Consider before Choosing a Chiropractor

Most people in the world are doing all they can to ensure that they enhance their wellbeing. There are so many things that one can do to enhance their wellbeing. For instance, you need to ensure that you adhere to a balanced, nutritious diet. It is also important to ensure that you exercise regularly. The other thing that you have to do is ensuring that you have access to proper health care. This includes chiropractic services. This is the case since there are some conditions that can only be treated by a chiropractor. Chiropractic services are known to be beneficial in so many ways. For instance, you can get assistance with your neck or back pain that you have been struggling with for quite a long period of time.

A lot of people these days are aware of the benefits associated with these services. This explains why the demand for these services is quite high nowadays. It is as a result of this that there has been an increase in the population of chiropractors these days. This means that you will have to choose one out of the many chiropractors that are there. It is your responsibility to ensure that you choose the right chiropractor. Unfortunately, doing so can be quite challenging. Fortunately, there are ways that you can simplify the whole process. One of them is the consideration of certain things. Considering these factors often out one in a good position to make the most informed decision when choosing a chiropractor. The following are a few examples of these factors.

First of all, you need to consider the location of a chiropractor before settling on them. When it comes to the location of the office of a chiropractor, you need to keep in mind convenience. Therefore, it is often appropriate to opt for a chiropractor whose office is conveniently situated. In most cases, this is a chiropractor who is situated near where you stay or work. This is highly encouraged since there are so many advantages associated with this move. Similarly, you also need to consider the hours of operation before choosing a chiropractor. Always keep your schedule in mind when choosing a chiropractor based on their hours of operation.

The other thing that you need to consider before choosing a chiropractor is the treatment methods that they utilize. There are so many methods that different chiropractors utilize these days. Therefore, it is often a good idea that you go through the treatment methods that a given chiropractor utilizes since some of these treatment methods are more effective as compared to others. This is one of the most important things to consider before choosing a chiropractor.

Finally, you also need to consider the experience of a chiropractor before hiring one. There are some chiropractors with more experience as compared to others. There are a number of benefits that you can enjoy by hiring such chiropractors. Therefore, it is a good idea to opt for a chiropractor who has a lot of experience.

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